Do you let the negativity and mental roadblocks keep you from achieving your goals? In a recent blog post I talked about ways to push past mental roadblocks which come across our paths. In this post I wanted to spend some time unwrapping why you need to push past the obstacles in your life.
You can become very comfortable living at the doorstep of your roadblock. It may seem silly or even self-sabotage from the outside. But you have lived so long in this place it is comfortable for you. And the thought of breaking through your roadblock is frightening. You do not know what is on the other side and it creates fear and anxiety in you. So you are content to live in this place because you are comfortable.
But there are many reasons to push through your roadblocks and live a more extraordinary life regardless of the obstacles your face.
A Better Way to Live
There is a better life on the other side of the obstacle. This may be difficult to see or believe, but you will never know until you push through. When you choose to live at the doorstep of your obstacle you are letting fear, anxiety, doubt, and mayhem rule your life. This is not a healthy way to live and these emotions and thoughts will always crush you in pursuit of your goals.
By busting through your roadblock you are crushing the fear which has held you down for so long. In doing so you are opening up a whole world of opportunities you never dreamed or imagined. But it will never happen as long as you believe the “I’m not good enough” and “I do not have what it takes” speeches. Believe there is a better way to live, pick yourself up from the doorstep, and bust your way through the roadblock in front of you.
There is Something Better
If you are going to push through a roadblock then you have to believe there is something better on the other side. Many people will not push through their doubts and fears until they become so uncomfortable at the doorstep of the roadblock they are forced to change. The circumstances make it where moving forward has to be better than their current life. But there is no reason to wait for some cataclysmic event to make this change. You have to believe in yourself and believe in a better life to take the first step through the roadblock.
Remember, when you stay at the doorstep you are living with all your fears swirling around you. You believe your greatest doubts. This is physically unhealthy, emotionally dangerous, and problematic for your relationships. You are projecting an unhealthy spirit to everyone around you, because you believe your fears to be true. Take the time to understand what your life will look like despite your current circumstances and use this frame of mind as motivation to bust down your wall to a new life.
There is Much to Learn in the Process
The only wasted and unnecessary roadblock is one not reflected upon properly. You can learn a tremendous amount about your life, passions, dreams, abilities, and strengths when overcoming a roadblock. But you will miss it if you look at the obstacle as just another unsightly part of your life you need to put behind you.
If you look at your obstacles as challenges and opportunities instead of discouragements. You can open yourself up to a tremendous world of learning not only about yourself but refining processes in your life which can lead to success. Never miss an opportunity to reflect upon your roadblocks to discover what you can learn from them in the process.
Discover an Inner Strength
In battling my own obstacles and pain, much of which is extremely overwhelming, I have learned something about myself. I am far stronger than I ever could have imagined. When I do take the time to reflect upon some of my struggles and roadblocks, there are moments when I am surprised I survived the ordeal. Let alone was able to walk through it with a slight amount of grace and understanding.
You are far stronger than you could ever imagine. But the problem with this strength is you will never know what you are capable of accomplishing unless you move forward through your roadblock. You will never comprehend the tremendous strength you possess until you begin the process of moving your roadblock out of the way. This strength will begin to compound upon itself with each successive roadblock. Giving your more strength and wisdom to address any future roadblocks which may come your way.
Better Situates us to Guide Others
I truly believe we were built, made, and put on this planet to serve others. No one has ever sat on their deathbed lamenting about how happy they were they only focused on themselves their entire life. Serving others opens up a creativity and love we would never find in only focusing on ourselves.
When you have taken the time to bust through your roadblocks you are in a much better position to guide others through theirs own obstacles. It puts you in a position to give back. Living on the doorstep of a roadblock is an extremely selfish and self serving place to live. Your focus is entirely on yourself and your circumstances. But once you bust through you have the realization of your own strength, wisdom, and capabilities. Which are much needed characteristics to help guide others through their own circumstances. Never underestimate your power to invest in others and guide them through their roadblocks after you have busted through your own.
The roadblocks and obstacles of life will never be easy or fun to deal with. But they will be there. It is not a matter of “if” we may encounter them but of “when?” Don’t be afraid to begin the process of busting through your doubts and fears. For what you find on the other side will be far greater than your current circumstances and anything you ever could have imagined.